Mary Carolyn Chilcote

Mary Carolyn Chilcote


Mary Carolyn Chilcote, 76, died Thursday, April 12, 2012 at Heartland Regional Medical Center following a four-month illness. She was a founder and 50-year volunteer at Patee House Museum. Mary was born in Atchison, Kansas, June 17, 1935. She was a graduate of Wathena High School; St. Joseph Junior College, and Northwest Missouri State University in Maryville, Missouri. She and her husband, Gary Chilcote, were married in 1958, and celebrated their 54th wedding anniversary April 2, 2012. They helped preserve the Patee House National Historical Landmark, and were major contributors to Patee House Museum. Mary was a music major and taught music at Elwood, Kansas; Sherwood and Noyes Schools. She also worked as a librarian. She played with the Municipal Band at Krug Park Bowl for 25 years. Mary was active in the Alpha Nu Chapter of Alpha Delta Kappa teacher’s sorority in St. Joseph. She participated in the annual Pony Express rerun sponsored by the National Pony Express Association, the group that annually rides the Pony Express Trail, and has served as a National Director of the NPEA since 1988. She was also a member of the National Association of Automobile Museums; and the Arkansas Museum Association. Mary was preceded in death by her parents, Erwin and Carrie Abmeyer of Wathena, Kansas. She is survived by her husband of the home, Gary Chilcote; a son, Douglas A. Chilcote, a daughter Carolyn D. Chilcote, both of St. Joseph; and a granddaughter, Hillary L. Chilcote, a senior at Benedictine College in Atchison, Kansas. She is also survived by a sister, Annabelle Pugh of Wallace, California and several nieces and nephews. (Services:) 10:00 A.M. Monday, Meierhoffer Funeral Home. Interment Mt. Auburn Cemetery. The Family will receive friends 6:00 to 8:00 P.M., Saturday, Meierhoffer Funeral Home. A Celebration of life will be held at Patee House Museum at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations to Patee House Museum in Mary’s memory.

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Messages of Condolence

  1. Valetta (Beach) Stretch says:

    So sorry to read of the passing of Mary. She was a terrific lady and will be missed. You all are in my thoughts, Valetta

  2. Mary Lou Wylie says:

    I am so sorry to hear of Mary’s death. Mom thought so highly of you and Mary. Both of you have done so much for the community–Mary leaves a big hole. I hope that your many wonderful memories will provide comfort.
    MaryLou Wylie

  3. Carrie Young Gilmore says:

    Gary, Doug, and Carolyn,

    Alot of my favorite memories surround your family and the good times we spent at the Patee House and at Krug Park Band Concerts. Mary’s countless volunteer hours and dedication to the museum will be greatly missed. She gave so much of her life for the benefit of the community. She was always so kind to me and served the best ravoli at Saturday lunches. I feel blessed to have had her as an example to try to live up to.

    Find comfort in knowing Mary is dancing with the angels and is watching over you.

  4. Dave Clem says:


    I am sorry to read of your wifes passing. I remember your fine articles you wrote about the boy my wife and I helped going to Colorado before he lost his eyesight. I always enjoyed your articles for the Newspress and your coming out to Rosecrans field visiting with us airmen. I know you and your wife have many fond memories. My you find comfort and peace. Sincerely, Dave and Katie Clem, Lancaster, KS

  5. Jim and Linda Pioch and Family says:

    Gary, Doug and Carolyn:

    We are very sorry to hear about Mary. We have had the pleasure of many found memories of time spent with you and Mary. We share your sorrow and know Mary will be missed in your family and in the community.

    Jim, Linda, Kim, Amy and Scott

  6. Karen George says:

    Mrs. Chilcote was my grade school music teacher at Sherwood and I have many great memories of her class. She instilled in me a love and appreciation for music that has had a profound impact on my life. I remember her confidence in me as I sang a solo in the annual school program when I was in the 4th grade. I have been singing ever since and am going to Carnegie Hall next month with the La Jolla Symphony Chorus. She was a great teacher in so many ways.
    Karen George

  7. Kimberly, Skye and Kimberlynn Davis says:

    Mary was a treasure that I know will be missed dearly. In so many ways she was a mother to me when I needed one. I loved her then; I love her now. As I do you all. I am so incredible sorry to hear of her illness and death. The world has lost a jewell beyond measure in her passing. You are all in my prayers.


  8. Jim and Eadie Riley says:

    We are so sorry to hear about your loss, Gary. Wec won’t be able to attend the funeral but you’ll be in our thoughts.
    J and E from Christchurch New Zealand

  9. Otis and Tadge Ross says:

    Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this time. We can’t attend the funeral; but we will be thinking of you.

  10. Gene & Pat Carter says:


    I am so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you in this time of deep sorrow.
    We never met Mary but you and I had several good high school memories. I hope to see you at the 60th this summer and relive some of our escapades.


  11. Beverly Seever {Anderson} says:


    I am so sorry to hear about Mary. I never really knew her, but reading her obit she must have been quite a lady.
    My thoughts & prayers are with you.
    Hope to see you at our reunion in Sept.
    Take care & keep busy!


  12. Margaret Moncrief Schlesinger says:

    I am so sorry to learn of your loss. How well I remember the tour of the museum you gave to me and the Rileys when we were there for a Central HS reunion several years ago. You and Mary created a wonderful repository of local history and she has left a great legacy for the community.

    Margaret Schlesinger

  13. Dorothy Miller, Frances and August Jackson III and family says:

    Gary and family,
    We are soo sorry to hear of Mary’s passing. We are saying prayers to the family. I remember all the family reunions every year. She will be missed.

  14. Larry & Marcy Koch says:

    Gary, we were saddened to hear of Mary’s passing. You and she made a great team. She will be missed by all.

  15. Fred Cone says:

    Gary was so sorry to hear of Mary,s passing! The only consolation is she is in a better place than we are and we will see her again! I remember fondly the tour you all arranged several years ago and am still in wonder of all the time and effort you both spent on the Museum and what a treasure it is!! Our thoughts and prayers are with you! Very Respectfully, Fred Cone

  16. Mahendra Rathi says:

    I am sorry to hear your moms passed on its so late I found out.I met you some almost 30 yrs ago and seen whole family in toronto Canada.I often talked toher while asking fir youe…she was always so nice please accept my condolences and grief.I wish all your family in good health. I havent seen u almost 25 yr ago plz email Me…ur friend Mahendra Rathi

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